popular work is The Search for Fulfillment (January 2010, Ballantine Books). She also writes for the Huffington Post's "Post 50" blog and is a frequent commentator on local, national, and international media outlets and has appeared on the Today Show, NBC Nightly News, Dateline, CNN, Olbermann, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Money Magazine, USA Today, and Time.com.    Psychology Today

The Ultimate Guide to Body Language From Your Head to Your Toes

How to Code and Decode Unconscious Cues

"We spend our lives learning how to decode other people's nonverbal cues.  While we’re busy trying to decode their messages, they are also trying to decode ours.  There are times when you want other people to know exactly how you’re feeling, especially when those feelings are both positive and reciprocated.  This isn’t always easy to do, especially if you’re not a particularly emotive type of person. At other times, however, you definitely want to hide your inner feelings. To avoid emotional leakage, you may have to work doubly hard. Depending on the situation, you may need to put on your Lady Gaga-style poker face

Body language is, just that, the language of the body. You may think that you only show your emotions through your face, but that is, quite literally, only the tip of the iceberg. Your entire body participates in the business of either showing or hiding your mental state. To control that display means you have to control your body's unconscious cues.  This guide will show you how, starting from the top down. By the time you’re done, you’ll have a much greater understanding of the role that even the seemingly most insignificant bodily gesture can provide key signals of your emotions...."    Psychology today

Look at the man pictured on the right. He doesn't appear happy. His eyes, tilted head, facial expression, and fist placed on the book gives us an aggressive visage. Is he trying  intimidate us?

Look at his point of view. Interestingly, he's not looking at us face on with a smile. It is off to the side with no friendliness. Do we find that attractive? I don't think so. Do you? This actually works against him.

Usually, without thinking about it when communicating, we send people body signals all day. It is in our nature, both conscious and sub-conscious as to how we move our eyes, shake hands, smile, not smile and so on.

To influence others to our way of thinking, to promote a lie, or to intimidate, we use body language to send signals  that make them like us better, turn them to our way of thinking, give us the benefit of the doubt, or induce fear and distrust in us. 

Now the question arises: Is the purposeful use of body language to achieve a particular goal wrong?

Not if we are aware that it is a non-verbal delivery skill. Body language supplements words and our verbal communication by supply-ing, important additional information that adds to the overall message conveyed. It is a process of cues being shared between people so that we hear what is not being said. By taking the place of words, it compliments the verbal earful and serves to accent and reinforce or contradict the truth of the dispatch.

​​Let's Read on about body language and how it can help or hurt us...that's what we're here for! Let's "Try For It" and see the related articles below.   ​ Vic Coelho

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Sizzling Topic: Forgiveness

In this painting by Rembrandt (a self-portrait made in 1640) we see the prodigal son looking at us. Spending beyond his means, having "lived in sin" with Hendrickje Stoffles, his lover, loss of respect from his peers, and ultimately dying in abject poverty--his only possession a Bible.

His later paintings reflected the theme of Biblical persons seeking God's forgiveness for wrongs committed. Were these paintings an expression of his own inner struggle?

How about our exercising forgiveness for the wrongs that may have happened to us?  What are the good, and bad effects? Should we forgive?

Does forgiveness decrease the negative memories of the past, and reduce our desire for vengeance? 

The articles presented below are intended to address the above questions and provide insight to us when making the decision whether or not to forgive. ​

How to Read Body Language More Effectively

"Body language is a huge part of how we communicate with other people. However, most of us only have an intuitive knowledge of non-verbal communication at best. Fortunately, if reading body language doesn't come naturally to you, or if you'd simply like to get better at it, there's a huge body of work that details what the body is really saying...

For a lot of people, diving into the world of body language elicits the same reaction: "At last, I'll learn how to be a human lie detector!" It's hard to blame anyone for the impulse. However, contrary to what Cal Lightman would like us to believe, you can't tell exactly how a person is feeling just because their lip twitched or they crossed their arms. What you can do is gauge how much a person is comfortable. This comfort/discomfort spectrum is far more important than trying to identify a specific expression or guessing a particular thought in someone's head..."    Lifehacker

Painting by Rembrandt van Rijn :

Prodigal Son–Awaiting Forgiveness  


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Body Language
Understanding Non-Verbal Communication

Have you ever been in the situation when you really didn't believe what someone was saying? Did you have a sense that something didn't ring true or a gut feeling that all was not right? Perhaps they were saying "Yes" yet their heads were shaking "No"?

The difference between the words people speak and our understanding of what they are saying comes from non-verbal communication, otherwise known as "body language." As you will learn in this article and video, by developing your awareness of the signs and signals of body language, you can more easily understand other people, and more effectively communicate with them..."    Mind Tools

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This Issue's Quote:

What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Try For It! By Vic Coelho

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Body language

"Body language is a type of non-verbal communication in which physical behavior, as opposed to words, are used to express or convey information. Such behavior includes facial expressions, body posture, gestures, eye movement, touch and the use of space...In a community, there are agreed-upon interpretations of particular behavior. Interpretations may vary from country to country, or culture to culture...Body language, a subset of nonverbal communication, complements verbal communication in social interaction. In fact some researchers conclude that nonverbal communication accounts for the majority of information transmitted during interpersonal interactions. It helps to establish the relationship between two people and regulates interaction, but can be ambiguous. Hence, it is crucial to accurately read body language to avoid misunderstanding in social interactions...."

8 Great Tricks for Reading People's Body Language

"Body language provides an amazing amount of information on what other people are thinking if you know what to look for. And who hasn’t wanted to read people’s minds at some point?

You already pick up on more body language cues than you’re consciously aware of. UCLA research has shown that only 7 percent of communication is based on the actual words we say. As for the rest, 38 percent comes from tone of voice and the remaining 55 percent comes from body language. Learning how to become aware of and to interpret that 55 percent can give you a leg up with other people.

When you’re working hard and doing all you can to achieve your goals, anything that can give you an edge is powerful and will streamline your path to success.

TalentSmart has tested more than a million people and found that the upper echelons of top performance are filled with people who are high in emotional intelligence (90 percent of top performers, to be exact). These people know the power that unspoken signals have in communication, and they monitor body language accordingly.

Next time you’re in a meeting (or even on a date or playing with your kids), watch for these cues..."    Entrepreneur

Body Language, and What We Learn From It!

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Travis Bradberry
Toxic Boss? How Successful People Overcome Them

"In an era when CEOs sport jeans and hoodies, it’s hard to know how to dress for your job. Real Simple asked profes-sionals in a range of industries to reveal what they think about your 9-to-5 style—and what it means for your climb up the ladder..."

Sarah Stebbins
How to Dress for Success

If you believe success is simply making (or having) a lot of money, you may be setting yourself up for failure.

"I'm often amazed at how many people define success as making (or having) a lot of money..."

Geoffrey James
What Is Success? Here's a Better Definition

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Alison Doyle
Cover Letter Samples

"The best things in life may be free, but that doesn't mean they won't take time, sweat, and perseverance to ac-quire. That's especially the case when it comes to learning important life skills. In an effort to ascertain which talents are worth the investment, one Quora reader posed the question: What are the hardest and most useful skills to learn? We've highlighted our favorite takeaways...."

Rachel Gillett
10 Skills That Are Hard to Learn But Pay Off Forever

"Is gratitude deficit rising in the work-place? When was the last time you sent an employee, colleague or customer a sincere thank-you note or a person-alized gift to show your genuine appre-ciation for what they do? If it has been so long you cannot remember, you may not be alone..."

Murali Doraiswamy
Why Thanking Employees Can Make for a Better Leader   

"Conscience-The awareness of a moral or ethical aspect to one's conduct to-gether with the urge to prefer right over wrong..."

Eri Tsuzugina​   
What are the different types of conscience?

"One of the biggest problems faced in the midst of completing day to day tasks on the job is complacency. Em-ployees become accustomed to doing things in a certain way or tasks flowing a certain way and grow oblivious to the hazards that may be ever present around them.  This type of state of mind can affect many things including pro-ductivity, quality and safety..."

Mindy Graham   
Combating Safety Complacency In The Workplace

"People make snap judgments on trust-worthiness based on facial muscles. But when it comes to competence, they look at a face's skeletal structure.This means there is not much you can do to change someones mind on your ability based on your appearance, according to the study..."​

Ellie Zolfagharifard
Smile! Appearing happy can make you look more trustworthy - and a wider face can make you seem competent

"For the avid coffee drinker bound to a monotonous desk job, there is a mo-ment – perhaps two thirds of the way through a cup – when the unbearably tedious task at hand starts to look do-able. Interesting, even. Suddenly, data entry is not something that merely pays the rent, it’s something you’re into. A caffeine-triggered surge of adrenaline and dopamine works to enhance your motivation, and the meaninglessness of it all fades as you are absorbed into your computer screen.

At least until the effect wears off. Then it’s time for another caffeine hit. Except, several thousand of those hits later, you find yourself middle-aged and strug-gling with a sense that you haven’t quite spent your life as you would have liked..."

Hazem Zohny
The Problem with Artificial Willpower 

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